Love Deeply

 

Love is hard.  It is not for the faint hearted.  Whether it is spousal love, sibling love, parent love, children love, friendship love - it can all be hard.  With a spouse, you start your marriage on your wedding day, thinking every day will be that wonderful.  When they bring the new baby home, you may believe you will be close forever.  The support of a parent may feel like you can do anything you want.  The birth of a child has us believing they will love us for a lifetime.  A close friendship can feel as if love is never-ending.  There are times of true joy and exuberance. 

In love, there are other times of disappointment and pain.  Our spouse does not share love the way we expect.  Our siblings turn cold shoulders.  Our parents discipline us.  Our child turns their back.  Our friend walks away.  We enter a love relationship with the expectation of it always being the ‘high’ of our life, never the ‘low.’  The key word in the last sentence is EXPECTATION.  I know I have entered many relationships with the picture-perfect expectation of what “I” think love looks like.  When that picture does not materialize, disappointment sets in.  The result?  Hurt feelings and a sinful nature of thoughts and actions.

Our verse for today shares so much of not when or who we should love, but how we should love.  Any relationship worth cherishing is worth the work, hard work.  What does that look like?  It is time to exit the picture of unicorns and butterflies and focus on the reality of living in a fallen world.  Each of us is a sinner.  Yes, my friends, it is not always the ‘other’ person who is a sinner, we are as well.  Our behaviors, our thoughts, our actions will also yield a sinful life.

This love verse reminds us of that.  As Peter reminded Christians long ago, we need to work had at love each other.  We need to dig deep and remind ourselves why we have this relationship with the other person, and then we need to do what Jesus does for us each minute of each day.  Forgive.  “… love covers a multitude of sins.”  It also covers a multitude of unmet expectations.  If we are setting expectations, let us review them periodically.  If the expectations have been set together with the other person, a check-in may be worth conducting.  If expectations are set silently, then there needs to be a check-in of how realistic they are, and certainly a conversation of sharing.

Love conquers all.  It conquers the hard stuff.  It conquers our sinful nature.  It conquers unrealistic expectations.  It conquers disappointment.  I cannot imagine how hard I have made it for Jesus to love me!  My sins, the constant disappointment, the actions, and words that I am sure leave Him saying, “Why did she say/do that?”  As I reflect on my own sinful nature, I have to also turn to my Savior, who rushes in and whose love does not just cover a multitude of my sins, but ALL of my sins.  Let us take a page from Jesus’ book, once again, on how to live our lives.  May we love so deeply that sins are covered by our love.  The strength to do that can only come from our simple faith in Jesus – He will provide.

Dearest Jesus, thank you for being our guide of how to love each other here on earth.  May we deeply love all those around us, knowing that our own sinful nature is as strong as their sins.  May our love cover a multitude of sins.  Amen!